23. Finding Balance - My Journey to Overcome Disconnection and Realign My Life

In today's episode of Sensual Secrets, I open up about feeling disconnected from my centre and the steps I've taken to reconnect with myself. Life's highs and lows can leave us overwhelmed and out of alignment, but I want to share my journey of finding inner peace, clarity, and balance. From recognizing signs of disconnection to taking conscious actions—like setting boundaries, nurturing my body, and reigniting my creative flow—this episode is all about reclaiming our sense of self. I hope my story inspires you to navigate your own path with compassion and strength.

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Transcript

Hello, beautiful souls and  welcome to a new episode of Sensual Secrets.  Today I want to talk about how in these past few weeks I have been feeling disconnected from my center. And I want to share with you also the actions that I have taken recently to reconnect again with myself and with coming back into a place of inner peace rest clarity.  

And there were a few things that I have noticed in my life lately  that showed me that I was being disconnected from my center, that I haven't been living in alignment. And I really want to share this with you because I know that we all go through these periods of highs and lows in life. 

And I really hope that you can also find strength and inspiration in this knowing that you're not alone. And whenever you're going through a tough time in life or a period that you're just not at your best. It's okay. Everybody goes through this.  And I also want to share how I have taken action  to get out of this period and to get myself out of this stagnant time in my life. And shift myself back into gear. 

So there were a few signs in which I really noticed that I was disconnected from myself. And one of them is that I was feeling overwhelmed. 

 There were so many changes present in my life. And I was going into constantly new environments, new connections, meeting new people, learning new skills. Integrating new knowledge. meeting different versions of myself because I'm going through a lot of different emotional situations. 

And there's just this constant fast pace of change. And it made me feel overwhelmed.  Yet. As a coping mechanism, instead of taking more time to myself and taking some rest and.  Returning to my center, what I was doing. It was being a social butterfly and actually running into more social engagements, running from dealing with what was inside from dealing with this inner turbulence. And even though I really enjoyed so many beautiful moments, I've enjoyed so much friendship, 

love, laughter. Deep down I knew that I wasn't honoring myself and  that I wasn't listening to my body. And I felt that I was lacking balance within, and I was also saying to people that I wanted to spend some more time alone, but I wasn't actually acting upon it. I wasn't doing it.  

 Next to that, I haven't been living from a place of having full clarity on what I want in life. And I like to have clarity for myself because that means that my life flows a lot easier when I have clarity. It's like,  My life goes in this streamline direction. My energy  flows a lot more streamlined. And when I don't have clarity, I feel like I waste so much energy going left and right. And having a really windy path. 

And so I noticed that without this clarity of my straight path or however straight, it can be. That it was so much more easy for me  to be taken off my path. And then also to have a drop in my energy by external changes, for example, difficult emotional conversations with certain people.  

What also showed up is that my discipline has been lacking. I didn't feel disciplined in my health habits. I wasn't living as consistently in my health habits, as I normally do. I was going to bed late. I wasn't going to the gym daily as I normally do or I was eating way more than my body needed. Even if this means that I was just having healthy snacks, like fruits and nuts.  It was too much. 

I was just stuffing myself. I was distracting my body from dealing with things.  And next to that I also noticed that I was eating more sugar like sugary snacks, or,  

whenever I would see a friend with a sugary snack, I would take a bite or I would ask a piece or I would just this direction, distraction, distraction, and not living in alignment with how I normally treat my body.  

Or maybe honoring how conscious I normally am with what I put into my body. 

And this lack of discipline also showed up  in maybe a block of creative energy. I haven't been showing up online lately and I haven't been connecting with you all which I love to do. And I feel like. I was really letting myself down in a certain way. 

So last week I made a few changes and I started to make different choices. 

I started to take action on what is more in alignment with my values, with how I want to live with who I want to be and what I am truly desiring. And how I can honor my needs.  

First of all, I started listening to my body more and finally giving it some rest. I was taking more time alone to center myself. I started meditating more to quiet my mind and to find more clarity on my path again, on what I want. And honestly, It's been so amazing to spend some more time at home, to read, to have a little nest and to cocoon a bit. To meditate, to write.  And I also started honoring my body. And listening to what it needs. For example, going to bed in time resting  when needed, even though I felt like I had to do other things I could take a little break.  And I started nourishing my body better.  I stopped overeating, 

I stopped stuffing myself with snacks. And I stopped the intake of unhealthy sugary foods, which I normally don't eat returning back to my normal diet.   Then a really important one is that I started setting boundaries and saying no to social engagements. I started clearing out my schedule, my calendar with things that yes are all fun and nice, but weren't in my highest priority right now to be social. 

I needed something different.   I think something that is really alluring for this to me is the fomo, what makes me go into saying yes, I want to join because otherwise I have this fear of missing out. But by honoring really my time alone and spending that time consciously and not just scrolling on my phone and wasting time.  I really don't have this fear of missing out because I'm  truly deeply doing what I really want consciously.  I'm learning new things by listening to books, talking with friends, having deep conversations, gaining more clarity out of these conversations.  I've been nourishing my soul. 

Also something that causes me overwhelm is when I don't take action on crossing of the things that are on my list. And things that keep lingering in the back of my head, things that I still have to do, like life admin stuff, but I haven't gotten to yet. So I take back control of what's happening in my life and I start taking action step by step. on, these things that are on my list, even the small things like making a few payments, texting a few people, doing a few emails. 

 Answering messages that have been left unread always make me feel overwhelmed and guilty at the same time. So getting to that and really going back into my messages and responding, taking the time to respond with love and with care and with presence really makes me feel so good fulfilled and.  On top of everything.  And so much lighter. 

 And then for my work, I already said I've been setting up new concepts. I am starting my creative flow again. And I've been doing more in-person one-on-one healing sessions with people because I've decided that I really just want to share my gift more. I want to be of service more. And I have this beautiful gift of doing somatic therapy and energy healing and having a beautiful physical touch and having talent for this. So why not ask myself the question more, how can I be of service to people around me here? How can I help people?  

And doing that honestly has been so fulfilling.  I think honoring this question, how can I be of service? How can I help?  Is really something that has shifted me into  benefiting my environment this past week. And by doing that, I also benefit myself.  


To finish off, I have just finished a three day water fast. And I want to talk about this fast in more detail in another episode, because.  There has been a lot of things that came up and a lot of clarity that I got from it. But I'd love to go a bit more into detail. but basically I did this water fast to shed some of these layers of energy, of emotions, of unhealthy habits that were building up slowly because I was literally feeling heavy from all of these unprocessed things building up inside of me. 

So I wanted to give myself a little health reset and a little mental reset.   I think most importantly as well, it  helped me to get more clarity. Because my body wasn't so busy with processing food. I wasn't distracting myself, I took more time to myself as well. 

I needed to honor my energy. But then next to that also It gave me so much empowerment because I really reconnected with my discipline again.  That I wasn't a slave to just stuffing myself to food unconsciously. I took back control of consciously choosing what I do consciously choosing how I create my life, what I put in my body. 
And to show myself what I'm capable of.  And show myself how strong and disciplined I am.  

So. Obviously, we can't always be on a high.  But when we moved through a period of being off balance or not being at our best. I think it's really important that on the one hand we have a lot of compassion for ourselves during that time. But also on the other hand, so figure out a way to take conscious action to build up a positive momentum. 

Again, instead of slowly sliding into a victim mindset or a less empowered version of yourself. Because it is so easy to start complaining or to get lost in self-pity, but in the long run that won't make you any happier. So I really hope that this is a good inspiration for you whenever you're feeling down.  And I'll leave it at that. 

Have a beautiful day.