11. Navigating Life's Lows - Strategies for Returning to Your Center

In this empowering episode of Sentral Secrets, join us as we delve into the art of returning to your centre during challenging times. Life brings its share of ups and downs, and understanding how to navigate the lows is essential for personal growth. Explore the internal and external factors that contribute to difficult moments and discover practical techniques to uplift your emotional state. From embracing your feelings to employing the "God dial" technique, this episode offers valuable insights on accepting, processing, and transcending challenging emotions. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and learn how to cultivate resilience and positivity in the face of adversity.

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Transcript

Hello, beautiful souls, and welcome to a new episode of Sensual Secrets. Today, I want to talk about how we can return to our centre or feel better when we are having a hard time, when we are feeling low. Because not every day is the same. We all pass through ups and downs, the highs and lows of life. But it's so important for you to be aware of how you deal with those. Dealing with the highs and enjoying the highs is all beautiful, sweet, and easy. But what happens and how do you react? How do you behave when you are feeling low? When you are having a hard time?

And this hard time can come through internal factors, such as your own thoughts or the stories that you create when you are stuck on something, something that has happened.

Or maybe you're just in a different period of your menstrual cycle and a different phase of your menstrual cycle, and you're influenced by your hormones. For me personally, it's always the week before my period comes that I'm feeling lower than normal in my inner fall. So it's important to integrate that into my life and to be aware of where this is coming from so I can actually show more compassion for myself.

But also, external factors can influence us in our environment. When we have a tough day at work, when your kids are being annoying, or when your partner does something that hurt you or you don't like.

Or it might even be something that happened in the bigger social-economic environment.

When you hit a low, when you're feeling bad, I think it's super important that you, first of all, accept this feeling, accept where you're at. Don't reject this feeling, just become aware of it. So that you can sit with it, embrace it because the less you fight it, the easier it is. And the more flow you will experience, the easier it is for you to come out of that feeling again.

And accepting this feeling doesn't mean that you go into a victim mindset and you create stories that become self-fulfilling prophecies. It means that you accept it to be able to let it go. To be able to truly, deeply penetrate it with your consciousness. So you can understand it. And you can truly feel it. So that you shine light on it and it can pass again.

So whenever you're feeling bad, sit with this feeling and truly feel the emotion. Where do you feel it? How does it feel in your body? Can you deeply penetrate it with your awareness, with your attention? Can you feel the texture of this emotion? Which stories are at the edge of it? Which perspective in your mind created this emotion?

Which stories are going on in your mind that keep this emotion going and then keep you in this loop of feeling bad?

Something that might really help is to release any emotions physically. When you truly penetrate this emotion and you focus on it, you might go deeply into the hurt and danger and realize that you can release it physically by crying, by screaming. Maybe you want to box into a pillow or in a boxing ring. You want to move your body to move this energy around and to not stay stuck in this. Or you maybe want to breathe in through the emotion and create spaciousness. When I'm feeling bad and I can locate this feeling in my body, what I like to do is I breathe in love. And then I'm reading out and I'd go out a painful emotion as something mental, something very simple.

You imagine breathing in love. And on every breath out, you let go of the pain.

So after you have accepted this feeling, you can take this as a starting point from where you will work from. And you can work yourself up into a positive spiral, into feeling better again.

And something that might help with that is asking yourself, can you upgrade your emotional state? Just one level. Can you just go from feeling doubtful, feeling boredom. Can you feel contentment? Can you go from feeling contentment to feeling optimism?

And there's this really simple, beautiful exercise that I've learned a while ago. And that's called the God dial. And it's so easy to just close your eyes and score your emotional state on a scale of one to 10.

With a score of one meaning that you feel really, really bad and a score of 10 that you feel accelerated, joyous, empowered. So score your emotional state on that scale. You close your eyes and you put then Lang, there is a big button that regulates your emotion. And then you experiment and you see if you can just dial that button. And you can turn it up. Maybe just one notch, two notches. If you initially were feeling like a six out of 10, you can close your eyes and you can see if you can reach a seven. Can you feel like a seven out of 10? Create it in. Can you feel like at eight?

And so you go on and on and on.

Obviously, you can't just go from a zero to a 10. But you can definitely alter your emotional state when you consciously put in the effort. To just cultivate that feeling inside of you.

And another good way of just upgrading your emotional state is through the emotional guidance scale of Abraham Hicks. And what he says is that you can't jump from sadness to bliss. But can you reach for that better feeling thought that leads to better feeling emotions?

So when you have a really bad, pessimistic, nasty, fearful thought that just makes you feel really bad.

Can you just alleviate that thought a little bit by using different language, for example? Can you just see a different perspective on that thought that is just a little bit better than makes your feeling or your story just a little bit less dramatic? And in that way, can you, for example, move from fear to worry, to doubt, to frustration, to boredom, to contentment, to optimism, to passion, to joy?

And as I said before, you're not going to be able to just move or jump from sadness to bliss. But can you help yourself? Returning to a positive, upward spiral. And can you help yourself just feel a little bit better?

So think about what helps you to feel good again? Which activities help you to feel good again? Practice self-care, reach out to friends for a chat, nourish your body, move your body.

These are some of the things that I try to do when I'm feeling bad. Right now, I want to get back into my yoga practice and I make sure that I meditate so that my Headspace is a bit clearer, and I don't get stuck in stories.

Something else I do is I get a few simple tasks done to feel achievement, to feel proud of myself, to keep a forward momentum going.

And clearing out your Headspace is something really important. Because often the way we feel is just based on our emotions and these emotions are based on our stories in our mind and the perception that we have on life.

And something that really helped me with clearing my head is to journal so that these stories that are stuck in my head become clear when I put them down to paper. And as I write them out, they leave my head. Because I can look at them. I can observe them from a distance and I just see how silly it all is. And usually, I start with journaling how I'm feeling just chaotic.